Sex matters. Unfortunately many therapists are not trained or comfortable dealing with sexuality. We have Intensive Sex Therapy Training and participated in the University of Guelph’s sexuality conferences.
At Hicks Counselling Services we work with couples experiencing sexual difficulties such as loss of intimacy and passion, differences in levels of sexual desire, orgasm issues, erectile dysfunctions and sexual compulsive behaviours.
Sex therapy involves taking a thorough sexual history, referring to medical practitioners when needed, teaching about sexuality and relationships, addressing relationship issues, identifying and changing patterns of sexual behaviour and providing take home assignments. Our work tends to be goal focused and short term (approximately 10-12 sessions).
Many clients report an increase in the frequency of sex and more intimate, satisfying relations after couples and sex therapy.
“Unsolvable conflicts and sexual difficulties are midpoints in a healthy relationship, rather than signs of personal inadequacy, incompatibility, or falling out of love.” (Dr. David Schnarch)
SEX ADDICTION and SEXUAL COMPUSLIVE BEHAVIOUR
Sex addiction, also known as sexual compulsive behaviour, is an excessive preoccupation with sex. People with sex addiction have difficulty controlling their sexual urges and will often act out sexually in ways that are harmful to their relationships, self-esteem and at times put themselves in danger.
Sexual addiction, like all addictions, causes distress and can negatively impact your health, job, and relationships – basically all aspects of your life.
Sex is normal and enjoyable, however, it can become problematic. When sex is a major focus of your life, is difficult to control and is harmful to you and others, you may have a sex addiction. Examples of compulsive sexual behaviour include excessive masturbation, cybersex and pornography. Sex addiction may also involve having sex with multiple partners and paying for sex. Regardless of the behaviour, untreated sexual compulsive behaviour is a problem. With treatment, you can learn to manage sexual compulsive behaviours
At Hicks Counselling Services, we have worked with many individuals struggling with compulsive sexual behaviour. Treatment often includes psychotherapy, self help groups, couples therapy and medication to help with sexual urges. Psychotherapy will help you understand your behaviours and negative core beliefs, learn strategies to cope, identify triggers to prevent relapse and help you have a healthy sex life.
We appreciate that people may feel shame and that it is difficult to reach out for help especially around areas of sexuality. Know that many people suffer with sexual compulsive behaviour and benefit from treatment. Please call or email as soon as possible if you feel like your sexual behaviour is slipping out of control.